2.4 children in lockdown...
2 weeks in lockdown
Week one was an adventure, a new routine at home where learning would become flexible and fun. And it really was. I was feeling apprehensive, but happy that we finally knew what was going on after a frantic, confusing and stressful few days before school broke up. I was looking at the situation with optimism – an opportunity to spend time with our children, doing the things I always want to do with them but sometimes struggle to fit in around swimming, beavers, tennis, homework etc. Also, I really came to appreciate how lucky we are to be in the countryside, with a garden and the sun shining. However, one week in to a new, restrictive routine, one without their friends and regular activities, difficult questions have started to arise.
Children are incredibly resilient – and it is my belief that it is important that they learn these skills early on to help them deal with challenging situations later in life - but entering week two, the realisation of what the situation means for us all has started to dawn on my six year old. Little questions have slipped into discussions – ‘I know everything is shut, but why can’t we go to the skate park?’, ‘If we are staying at home to protect the elderly and vulnerable, will grandma and grandad be ok?’, ‘I thought children couldn’t die from the virus – I just heard on the radio someone saying that a 14 year old has died. 14 is a child, isn’t it?’ Little questions that mask bigger questions inside their small heads.
As parents we want to create a safe bubble for our children, to protect them from the bad in the world, but when faced with extraordinary situations, that even we don’t completely understand, we do not always have the right answers.
All we can do, is to try our best to reassure them, talk through their anxieties, talk some more, and be there to give them a cuddle if they are worried or confused. I have tried to give my 6 year old facts – he wants to understand more about what is going on – but without scaring him, at least I hope. The next few weeks or months will be a challenge for us all, we’ll learn a lot about our children, their capabilities and ours too. Let’s find ways to support each other and try to make the best out of the situation.